Pauley Perrette’s Partners: Inside the Actress’s Marriage to Coyote Shivers and Two Failed Engagements
Pauley Perrette’s partner, several years ago, allegedly stalked her after their divorce. Still, the actress never gave up on love. She fell in love again but did not tie the knot unless California legalized same-sex marriage. At present, she is enjoying a single and celibate life.
Pauley Perrette is often associated with feisty forensic scientist Abby Sciuto, her “NCIS” character that made her a household name. Avid television watchers fell in love with Perrette’s character because, despite her goth style, she was a jolly, successful, and empowered woman.
She appeared in every episode of the show until her exit in 2018. Unfortunately, it only took a few years before Perrette announced her retirement from the industry altogether. Fans have since been curious about her life behind the scenes, including her romantic pursuits.
Mark Harmon and Pauley Perrette in an episode of “NCIS.” | Source: Getty Images
Before joining the cast of “NCIS,” Perrette had already been married and divorced. Her first marriage ended badly with a legal dispute that dragged on for several years. However, the experience did not hinder her from falling in love again.
Pauley Perrette’s Marriage to Coyote Shivers Ended with a Lengthy Legal Battle
Perrette’s first husband was Coyote Shivers, a Canadian musician and actor. Shivers was the man behind “The Kids in the Hall’s” theme song and the guitarist of the rock band Sharkskin. He has appeared in “Hollywood Sex Wars,” “Dirty Love,” “Girl In,” and “Down and Out with the Dolls,” among others.
Perrette’s claims were strengthened when Shivers’ ex-wife, Bebe Buell, came forward with her accounts.
Coyote Shivers and Pauley Perrette during the “Down and Out with the Dolls” opening at CineSpace in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images
Shivers and Perrette tied the knot in 2000 and had a marriage that lasted four years. Two years later, in 2006, their divorce became official. Unfortunately, their troubles were just about to begin as a lengthy legal battle followed.
Perrette filed a restraining order against her former husband because of his a*****e nature during their union. The pair made headlines several times in the years that followed, including news that Shivers posed as a woman on the internet to harass Perrette. They both accused each other of stalking as well.
Shivers attempted to have the court dismiss the restraining order after its legality had been used as a weapon against him. According to Perrette’s first husband, her court-ordered protection got him booted from “NCIS,” where he worked in the music production department.
He also claimed that his peace and space were compromised after Perrette moved near his Los Angeles neighborhood. Meanwhile, Perrette’s claims were strengthened when Shivers’ ex-wife, Bebe Buell, came forward with her accounts.
The couple eventually got engaged and exchanged vows in front of their loved ones, but they were never legally wed.
Pauley Perrette during The Thirst Project 4th annual gala and performance at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on June 25, 2013, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images
According to Buell, she was met with several false police reports, complaints, and more after she told her then-husband to find work in Los Angeles. “Instead, he found Pauley. His next meal ticket,” she said.
Buell also alleged that she was a victim of Shivers’ stalking and torment. However, Shivers vehemently denied all claims made against him.
Soon after, other women came forward with their encounters with Shivers. Perrette bonded with many of them and pooled efforts to ensure Shivers no longer bothered them.
Pauley Perrette Was Engaged Twice after Her Divorce, but She Never Got Married Again
Although her first marriage did not work out, Pauley Perrette’s dating life became active again. She entered a four-year relationship with cameraman Michael Bosman.
Pauley Perrette and Michael Bosman during the L.A. Loves Alex’s Lemonade Culinary Event at Culver Studios on September 29, 2012, in Culver City, California. | Source: Getty Image
The couple eventually got engaged and exchanged vows in front of their loved ones, but they were never legally wed. According to Hello Magazine, Perrette said at that time:
“We just kind of wanted it to be about an ideology of everybody and of generosity and community.”
“We’d been waiting until everyone could marry before we did it ourselves,” she said in an interview. Sadly, their relationship ended in 2008.
Pauley Perrette and Thomas Arklie during CBS’ Teacher’s Rock Special Live Concert Press Room at Nokia Theatre L.A. Live on August 14, 2012, in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images
She claimed to have an imaginary boyfriend named Adam on Twitter, who has a job and a pet. However, living a single life brings Perrette happiness.
After Bosman, Perrette fell in love with former British Marine Thomas Arklie. The pair were together for some time and got engaged in 2011. However, she still did not want to tie the knot until same-sex marriage was a right given to everyone in California.
When marriage equality became a right in 2014, she and her then-fiance still did not tie the knot. According to the actress, she intended to support the LGBTQ community by taking a stand but was in no rush to walk down the aisle herself.
She did, however, proudly address Arklie as her fiance on Twitter. Perrette and Arklie never became husband and wife. It is unknown when their relationship officially ended.
Pauley Once Said She Decided to Be Celibate and Single for Life
Pauley Perrette’s dating life has since been quiet as she decided to be single and celibate for the rest of her life. She claimed to have an imaginary boyfriend named Adam on Twitter, who has a job and a pet. However, living a single life brings Perrette happiness.
Since retiring in 2020, Perrette has been enjoying life on her own terms. She spends time with her rescue dogs and sometimes posts updates on Twitter for her fans to see.
In 2021, Perrette experienced several traumatic events, such as her father’s d***h due to C0V1D-19. She also suffered a massive stroke that changed her life. Despite the challenges she faced, Perrette is grateful for life and the overwhelming support and love she received from her fans.